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#Metoo, Or #TooFar?



Metoo Or TooFar

Feminism is running off a cliff. Now that’s not news. They’ve been doing it for decades. With their increasingly misandrist ideology and their moral hypocrisy, feminists have made themselves an intellectual laughingstock across the world. Their latest cliff is #Metoo feminism.

#Metoo began as the outgrowth of accusations against Harvey Weinstein. Weinstein, who almost makes me ashamed to be a man, took rapacious advantage of his position of power and wealth in Hollywood, to sleep with (and rape) a considerable number of young women. The shock surrounding this has been public outrage that is… not to be entirely trusted.

It is easy for Hollywood actresses, who have wealth and status, to denounce Weinstein and other piggish men for their misdeeds, because it costs them nothing. Since the outing of Weinstein accusing him of sexual misdeeds is like accusing Al Qaeda of killing people. Neither is newsworthy. It would have been courage for a young woman to denounce Weinstein last year, or in the 20 plus years he’s been doing this. But then the cost would have been terrifying. The loss of a career before it started. I don’t blame these women for not coming out. I’ve known survivors of sexual abuse and rape, and they are not to blame if they cannot speak out. But to praise as heroines women who jump on a bandwagon, is an unfit use of the word ‘hero.’

But what’s worse is the demand that we ‘believe all women,’ who claim to have been victimized. Many men have been accused of misconduct by a woman, but never have the women been so universally believed. Not believed by police or courts of law, which have rules to determine their behavior towards the accused. But by courts of public opinion. By a media class which wants to propagate a narrative of bestial men abusing women.

I’m not saying we shouldn’t listen to these women, or take them seriously. But we can’t just believe them and treat the men they accuse like criminals. Some of these men, Weinstein, Cosby, Louis and perhaps Moore, are likely guilty of something. But let’s judge carefully before we throw them under the bus.

The writer Claire Berlinski has penned an interesting piece on this topic in American Interest. She recounts how, as a young undergrad at Oxford, her behind was pinched by a rather drunk Oxford don at a Christmas party. The don said, I’ve been dying to do this to Berlinski all term!” Alright, the man might have done something piggish while tipsy, this happens on college campuses continually. But what’s interest was Berlinski’s response, “I knew full well he’d been dying to do that. Our tutorials—which took place one-on-one, with no chaperones—were livelier intellectually for that sublimated undercurrent. He was an Oxford don and so had power over me, sensu stricto. I was a 20-year-old undergraduate. But I also had power over him—power sufficient to cause a venerable don to make a perfect fool of himself at a Christmas party.”

A 20-year old woman brought a don to make a fool of himself in the presence of others. And feminists complain of not having power? The power a pretty woman can exert over a man is tremendous. There’s a reason why Helen of Troy launched a thousand ships, she was the most desirable woman in Hellas. Berlinkski’s don was acting on the same motive that Paris was. They found a woman attractive, and did something foolish to show it.

She goes on to say, “Courtship is not a phenomenon so minor to our behavioral repertoire that we can readily expunge it from the workplace. It is central to human life. Men and women are attracted to each other; the human race could not perpetuate itself otherwise; and anyone who imagines they will cease to be attracted to each other—or act as if they were not—in the workplace, or any other place, is delusional.”

Absolutely correct. I’ve been in blue-collar work for years, and no one ever follows the rules laid down by feminists. I’ve heard lewd jokes cracked in mixed company, discussions of celebrities sexual attractiveness and open flirting on the job site. None of this should be shocking, because it’s nature taking its course. Men and women are still, no matter what, men and women. Attractions occur, sometimes they’re acted upon, with a variety of consequences.

We’re heading towards a world where a man can’t express interest in a woman under any circumstances, at all. London’s police are considering whether to count wolf whistling at a woman as a crime.

As a man, I say this stuff is terrifying. We’re starting to treat the remotest expression of male sexuality as being a crime. Is this really the road we want to take? We’re going to find people we’re attracted to, sometimes at work, and whether we do anything about it is in our hands.

Are we going to end in a place where a man can’t act on his sexual attraction to a woman? Because that’s how babies are made, folks.

Being male is no crime. Being interested in women around us is no crime either. How we, as men, act upon those attractions are regulated by social convention, laws and our own moral codes as individuals. If we occasionally make fools of ourselves, or even go too far, please don’t hold that against us. We’re not necessarily criminals or creeps. Inside of us sits a Tom Sawyer, who’ll make a total fool of himself for the sake of impressing a pretty girl.