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In March, I wrote an article called, “The Pences are Doing Something Right” for another publication. I went back and re-read it today in light of the whole Weinstein scandal. Weinstein made a practice of wining and dining actresses with the intent of getting them alone for sex. Sometimes, this started with a simple dinner. Alone. Exactly what VP Pence has said he never does. Pence was widely mocked and ridiculed and his marriage to second lady Pence portrayed as some sort of matrimonial prison…or worse. I am re-publishing the article in full here because what I wrote in March is still true. It will always be true. Don’t believe me? Ask anyone who has ever been betrayed by a partner, harassed by someone, abused, objectified or intimidated. Many will say it started at a simple dinner…

The Pences Are Doing Something Right

By Linda Stockton

Vice President Mike Pence has taken a lot of unwarranted criticism this week because of his wife, Karen, revealed that he never dines alone with another woman or attends events which serve alcohol without her present. The surprising thing here is not that there is criticism. That is expected because it doesn’t really matter what anyone in the current administration does or does not do, the haters will find it wrong, distasteful, sexist, racist or some other socially or morally unacceptable idea. No, the surprise is that much of the criticism is from women. And that is also very sad.

To explain, the article in which this piece of information was reported, was a Washington Post piece about Karen Pence and her influence on her husband, the Vice President. From a female perspective, it would seem that Mrs. Pence would have earned the esteem and admiration from those who claim to promote those very things and wish to see women with clear thought and positive influence in the public discussion. But, sadly, somehow, this piece which highlights the extraordinary closeness and “enduring connection” between the Pences, has been twisted into a hit on Mrs. Pence as a controlling, jealous wife and V.P. Pence as an untrustworthy henpecked wimp.

So, let’s clarify. The Pences have been married for over 30 years…since 1985…and are devout Christians. Theirs is a marriage which has largely been admired and lauded as one of unique closeness and enduring love. Unlike so many marriages in politics and elsewhere, both the Pences have stated that they take their commitment to one another and to God seriously. They confirm that they work on their relationship. Because it is a priority to them. This begs the question then: what is all the fuss about?

Well, apparently, in today’s society it is supposed to be perfectly acceptable for a married man or a married woman to dine alone with a member of the opposite sex with whom they are not married. For what purpose? In what circumstance is this 1) appropriate 2) necessary 3) faithful to one’s vows?

 

  • Appropriateness is, of course, a matter of perception. But that is part of the problem. For VP Pence, it would not in any circumstance be appropriate for him to dine with another woman alone. It would be perceived by some as him stepping out on his wife. The tabloids would have a great time with those stories. Fake news would abound. His marriage and family would be affected. In that case, it is inappropriate.  Even if one was not a public figure,  the appearance of something clandestine is enough to cause rumors and there are few marriages that are so rock solid, that these do not infiltrate and sow seeds of doubt. Why would one risk their marriage or the real threat of hurting their spouse because of it?

 

  • Necessity is a bogus argument. There is nothing that can be discussed or achieved over dinner that cannot be done in the work environment. One does not need to have an “offsite” with a colleague of the opposite sex to discuss work matters or employee issues or company policy or any other matter regarding one’s occupation. If it cannot be discussed within the work environment, perhaps, it is best left unsaid.

 

  • Faithfulness. Marriage and true commitment is not something one does to fit in somewhere in the parameters of an already full social life. If it is to be a lasting union, it must be a full commitment. One may say that they would never cheat on their spouse, never ever commit adultery or hurt the one they love. OK. When one shares their time or focus or attention on another person, other than their spouse, how is that not cheating? Cheating is not just a physical acting out. Cheating is emotional as well. It is the withholding of one’s time, one’s affection, one’s complete commitment to another. Having dinner is not about whether the person on the other side of the table is someone you want to sleep with or not. It is about whether that person is the one person in the whole world you could choose to have dinner with over anyone else…including your spouse. In choosing to spend that quality time with them rather than your spouse, you have just sent the message to you husband or wife, that they are not as important. That is cheating.

 

The bottom line is this: In today’s world, we are at a crisis point of infidelity, divorce, single parent families, sex addiction, sexual harassment litigation…and the list goes on. What one person sees as a harmless dinner, another may view as much more. . . a date, the first step to an affair, a way to “get ahead” in their job, an opportunity to influence. It is a risky and pointless road to travel. Avoiding this, as the Pences choose to do, is wise beyond words. And incredibly respectful. Mr. Pence is telling his wife that he not only loves and honors her, but that he would rather have dinner with her than any other woman in the world. His time with her is more important to him than to waste it on someone else.

Maybe that is why they have been happily married for so long and why she holds his heart and his respect as his most trusted partner. Maybe that too, is why many in D.C. respect their coupleship and commend them for their commitment. Rather than criticize them, maybe we ought to try to learn from them. No one can stand outside of someone else’s marriage and judge what happens behind closed doors. What one can do, is see the fruits of a happy marriage and take notes. And maybe hope for something similar in their own lives.

And let me just add, the alternative is what we see so much of in Hollywood and in Washington D.C. Maybe the whole Weinstein revelation will be a wake up call to bring our country back to it’s moral senses.

Colorado mom, wife and grandma. Wanting a better America for the next generation. Just a regular girl...with opinions.

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Is Matt Walsh right? Do we need more masculinity in our culture?

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One of my favorite commentators and writers is Matt Walsh. Not, only because of his writing but his tweets as well. I enjoy following him because many of his tweets are not merely statements but ones that invoke thought and contemplation. Consider this tweet:

One question that arises from Matt Walsh’s tweet that needs considering is, what is real masculinity and do we need more in our culture?

What is masculinity?

What is masculinity? Having to ask this question and answering it, is part of the problem in my estimation. Our culture has been fundamentally transformed from the Judeo-Christian values this country was founded upon. This problem hasn’t affected the society alone but the church as well. I’m no pastor but my time in seminary and my exposure to the issues of the local church, I find that many in the church couldn’t answer this question.

Since I’m a Christian and I hold to a biblical worldview, I can only answer this question within my own worldview. Many will not agree with me, and I don’t expect them to agree with my worldview or my biblical understanding of what masculinity is. My answer is not exhaustive, as a thorough answering to this question would be a book and not an article.

Therefore, to answer this question lets see what the Bible says. In Ephesians 5:25-33, a passage on the role of the husband, it is essential to examine these verses because most men in society will become husbands and fathers. The Bible teaches us that if a man doesn’t provide for his family, he is worse than an unbeliever and that he must manage his own household well or he is disqualified from service in the Church. Therefore, genuine masculinity is not about merely being a biological male, but specific characteristics characterize masculinity.

Leader of love

In Ephesians 5:25-33, the word “love” is used six times, and in the final verse the man is called to love his wife, and the wife is to respect her husband. Why is the woman to respect and not love her husband? The woman is to love her husband but to correctly understand this passage you must realize what love means and what men are called to do.

This passage tells men to love as Christ loved the Church. So you must understand that love is not merely about emotions or a feeling in the pit of your stomach. Love is a verb, which indicates action and a willful volition of the soul to lay down your wants and desires for the object of your love.  In essence, it means to joyfully sacrifices in all aspects of life even laying down your life if need be.

So is the woman to love her husband? Yes. But she is not the leader of love, and thus she is called to respect her husband and not usurp his role as the ultimate leader of love and sacrificer in the marriage, family, church, culture, and society. That is why I believe the word “respect” is used instead of “love” because a truly masculine man will continually seek to love and sacrifice for his wife more than she does for him. In a sense, it is a beautiful picture of two people becoming one in a pursuit to love each other more, and the growth of love and sacrifice is lead by the husband.

Masculinity is

Therefore, masculinity is about being Christ-like, the perfect example of masculinity. He showed strength in his loving kindness and gentleness to those around him. He took the role of the servant and served those that should have been serving him. In our society, we see these traits as weak and not characteristic of strength and masculinity. A man must be a fighter and stand on principles, that is what makes a man. This is also true, but these characteristic of true masculinity aren’t exclusive, they are integral to authentic masculinity.

Jesus was no pushover. He stood up against the religious leaders of his day. He called them hypocrites, blind fools, and murders to their faces. He made a whip out of cords and chased the corrupt thieves and money changers from the Temple. He stood up against all the pressures and temptations of the world and never wavered or budged.

If any of you don’t think Jesus is a fighter, then let me direct you to the Book of Revelation and see what Jesus looks like when he comes back carrying a sword. He will bring his strength and might and bring due justice and punishment on the wicked, but at the same time, he will show great love and mercy to the world by sending out his messengers with a message of peace, love, and repentance.

The Takeaway

I agree with Matt Walsh that we need more masculinity in our culture, but we must always understand what we are asking for. I don’t want masculinity; I want biblical masculinity in society. I want men to be examples in the workforce of honest, hardworking employees. Men that a company can depend on. Men that provide for their family and forgo the latest big boy toys because the money is needed to buy things for their family. A man that realizes when he gets home his most crucial job begins; which is to serve God and love his wife and his children. He is more interested in raising his children than raising a beer with his buddies at a bar. I want men in our society and culture that stand up for the truth and are steadfast in their devotion to the noblest virtues in our society. I want men to be leaders of love.

Now, men are sinners and are not like Christ. We can’t do this perfectly. We can only strive to do this to the best of our ability through faith in him and in his strength, grace, and mercy. We will fail, but we must pick ourselves up and keep striving to be masculine men. The one thing that I ask from women is this; please don’t usurp or hinder the men in your life from becoming masculine men. Please help us and encourage us to become better men. We can’t do this without you. Help us be the type of men that will help us change our family, society, and culture for the better.

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Levin: Conservatives must learn to protest

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I want you to read this statement Mark Levin made on his Facebook page.

Levin is right about one thing.  We must protest this insanity.

Steve Deace wrote a series on Conservative Review about “Why Conservatives Lost.”  The final installment of this series is that political parties don’t make the change, it’s the protest movements that make the change.  Colin Rand Kaepernick might be looking for work, but what he started last year, began to spread like wildfire this year in spite of the fan turning on them.  Now the NFL is going to appease the likes of the BLM and Anifa crowd and cave into their demands while tying the hands of local law enforcement.

The left will continue with their protests as they move us towards the tyranny that they have been dreaming about putting us under for years.  Thanks to the judges having the final say, the progressives will eventually have an America that is so pagan and so anti-God that eventually it will fall to a foreign enemy (likely Iran) in spite of their own quest of breaking God’s Law so they can chase after their own personal desires without guilt.  Especially stealing from the masses (and spreading that wealth around), seeking Free Love (and murdering the unwanted children they create out of their lusts), and then lie about not doing the former two.  Our media always leaned left but now they are proud to be known as progressive.

We must do more than just take a knee. We don’t have to adopt the violent tactics that Antifa and Black Lives Matter use (except in self-defense). These people to me are nothing more but children that were undisciplined and spoiled and was never told no regarding their bad behavior. We must take some time from the busy day outside of our family and lives to push back on this.  Even out vote must become a protest and not forever be a group think of the Republican Party or whatever.

For the Progressives protest is their life (read Alinsky’s book), and they expect you and me to stay so busy that we will get let them get away with their “fundamental transformation” of our country. We can’t do that anymore. The progressive want to run everything. Not just the streets, academia, media, most of government. They want to become gods themselves and they want to overthrow the true God, just as their god Lucifer tried to do so long ago.

Progressivism is not just a political philosophy, it’s the emerging civic state religion of America that is very unforgiving to those who sin against it.

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It would be funny if it wasn’t sad: Girl Scouts embrace gender roles to keep Boy Scouts out

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The Boy Scouts have abolished themselves by removing the “boy” from the “scouts.” This prompted the transgender-friendly, liberal, feminist Girl Scouts to suddenly squeal in protest because gender roles, apparently, are good. Who knew?

Mourning the end of the Boy Scouts

The Boy Scouts of America are now no more. The executive Scout council has voted, unanimously, to allow girls to into the Cub Scout program. We can expect that they will be allowed into full Scouting very soon, and to earn the coveted Eagle. While I was only a Cub Scout for a short time, I have seen one brother serve as a Life Scout, two brothers take their Eagles, with a third well on the way. And here is some what I’ve seen.

My younger brother Mark, experienced his own rite of passage, partially through the Scouts. Mark attended the Scouting camp at Boundary Waters. At that camp he and others traveled by canoe and foot. When on foot, they had to carry their boats on their backs. Mark told me that, at one point, he carried a boat virtually alone, and had no choice but to continue to walk. That experience taught him that the lesson of endurance in adversity. A lesson we want boys to learn, but don’t want them to suffer for. My brother later took that lesson into the Army’s Ranger School, where he suffered again, and succeeded again.

I’ve also seen my brothers learn, albeit with difficulty, lessons of self-reliance, leadership planning and more. I think what made all of this possible is the boys-only nature of Boy Scouts. In a boys-only environment, competition and cooperation are possible. They’re able to sort themselves into the natural order of leadership, which their abilities incline them.

When you introduce girls into a male environment, it changes things. Yes, I know, Cub Scouts haven’t reached puberty, but they will. And when the new girl Boy Scouts become young women, all the hormonally driven issues that plague us when we are teens will plague the Scouts.

What will the Scouts do, I wonder, if they catch Scouts involved with each other? What will the explanation be should a young woman become pregnant by a fellow Scout on a camping trip? How will the endless issues be handled when young men and young women are in close quarters with each other?

The obvious answer is that they cannot be ‘handled’ by the Scouts exccept by barring girls, which they no longer have the spine to do. If the U.S. military cannot handle these issues in a sane way, the Scouts cannot either. But besides bemoaning the end of the Scouts, and prophesying what may come, what makes this really hypocritical is the reaction of the Girl Scouts. The Girl Scouts have been progressive, so much so that no conservative mother known to me allows their daughters to be involved in Girl Scouts past about age 12 or so.

Hypocritical Girl Scouts embrace gender roles

As soon as the BSA announced their contradictory goal of allowing girls into the Boy Scouts, the head of the Girl Scouts let loose a volley.

So when men’s only groups exist they’re sexist old boys clubs, and must be hounded out of existence. And when girls only groups are threatened, then we must reverse ourselves and say that gender specific groups are good, but only for girls, because…men suck.

In what is being called a strongly worded letter, the Girl Scouts, and their spokesman, are accusing the BSA of trying to appeal to Millenial parents by letting girls in. The GSA spokesman cited research which supports gender-specific training, that is, girls having their own groups is a good thing.

Peak 2017: Girl Scouts angry over competition from … – Hot Air

https://hotair.com/archives/2017/08/24/peak-2017-girl-scouts-angry-competition/We have the famously progressive, pro-choice-supporting Girl Scouts squaring off against the famously conservative and religious Boy Scouts over gender identity and integration. I’m so old that I recall when people demanded that the Boy Scouts expand their membership to more protected categories, and when boycotts and marginalization were the only appropriate responses to male-only clubs and organizations. Wouldn’t it be better for girls to have a choice in scouting organizations?

Buzzfeed reported the letter saying, “For more than 100 years, our organizations have worked in a respectfully and complimentary manner, and we have been mutually supportive of one another’s mission to serve America’s youth. It is therefore unsettling that BSA would seek to upend a paradigm that has served both boys and girls so well through the years by moving forward with a plan that would result in fundamentally undercutting the Girl Scouts of the USA/”

They further reported:

“It’s a potentially dangerous and bad idea,” the spokesperson said, citing research supporting “single gender programming” which says that girls learn best in an all-girls environment when it comes to scouting.”

Wait, aren’t boys-only, and men-only, groups a bad thing?

The Takeaway

Women-only gyms are a good thing, because–women need a space to be safe from men. Okay, I can wrap my testosterone-warped brain around that one. Women want women’s groups, gyms, clubs etc, go ahead, civil society is free to form itself into the groups needed by its members. But on some campuses, men’s groups are blocked. In the UK, men’s only golf clubs were forced to open up to women years ago, to the detriment of wives who must now pay for 2 full memberships instead of 1. But wait, I see it now.

The key part of the GSA’s complain isn’t to do with gender-specific groups, but with ‘fundamentally undercutting the Girl Scouts of the USA.”

So when men’s only groups exist they’re sexist old boys clubs, and must be hounded out of existence. And when girls only groups are threatened, then we must reverse ourselves and say that gender specific groups are good, but only for girls, because…men suck.

If this weren’t so sickening I’d be amused. But seeing the legendary Boy Scouts of America prostrate themselves before the forces of the Left is nothing short of a sorry end to a noble institution, which impacted the lives of countless boys and men, including me.

We’ve learned two things from this sorry episode.

  1. Eventually the Left ruins everything,
  2. When ideology meets cash, cash wins.

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